We choose hurt…

Often times when we are close to someone we say they hurt us by means of something they said or did. We take on the hurt because we experienced failed expectations or painstaking disappointments.

This will happen because we are close to the individual. However this is not a case of sparks are flying so you will get burn, rather it is a flowing river and you choose to dive in, you choose to get wet.

If we were to have seen the person’s behaviour from a distant it might not have mattered to us. We would perhaps just over look the fault or the problem and move on or move up.


But too often when we are close to someone and that individual do or say what they will, we choose to wear hurt. In choosing to wear the hurt we take the bad end of the stick, we say well you don’t know what you did to me when you…Whenever this happens the emotions begin to ride the tides of our hearts. The spirit then becomes discouraged and downcast.


I am one of those persons who believe that even in our best and greatest efforts we still offend, if not many, at least some. I have seen governments who did what was best for their people yet were hated for it. Jesus came and did what was Godly and righteous and was hated then crucified for it. I am writing this to help some to overcome hurt, still there may be those who dislike me for it.

I believe when God sends the rain, one man is happy, another is angry. I believe when God sends us the sun, one man is grateful, another man is complaining. We choose our response and we also choose to wear hurt. Some persons may look at this with great cynicism. Perhaps you will say people are hurting you and you have been hurt in the past.

I therefore ask you this question, when you get a release from the hurt you are feeling and carrying isn’t there usually a process of letting go? Even in therapy we are guided to connect with the source of the hurt and to replace the ill feelings with better, a shifting of the emotional response.


We choose to take on hurt, even when no offense is given some will always take it.

Even when an apology is given some will always choose to hold on to the hurt. This message could never be clearer to me, we choose to hold on to it and we choose to let it go. We choose to put on the garment of praise or the garment of hurt and bitterness.


The flip side is that hurting people hurt people. Not many are discerning enough to notice that the child who keeps snapping at his school mates may very well be in need of help. We often take on the hurt from others, while becoming blind to the bigger issue that the person may just need help.


How do we fix hurts? We let them go. We let them go and replace them with better. We let them go and replace them with suitable substitutes of healing, deliverance and freedom. This we do when we embrace the truth of God’s word. The darkness and evil will flee away. No longer will I choose hurt, I choose life, and I choose abundant life.

(If you need further help with overcoming hurt, feel free to make contact with me)

I am here...You are there...

I am here…


You are there…

But we connect by our phones

Or by our hearts

I am here…

You are there…

But we connect through prayer…

Or by our spirits

I am here…

You are there…

Through the simple words we share

We often know God is near

Speaking To Yourself

I am more than who my mind says I am…

I am more than what my emotions feel…

A fool’s water I will not drink

To a useless vessel I refuse to shrink.

My heart is not ashamed of its Maker

I will be among the world’s shakers




I speak to myself

My secret song, exalt thou the name of the Most High

Soul of mine, seek thou God daily

Heart and strength, worship thou the living God




Evil flee from me, to the west and to the north

Oh God, discharge your angels over me

Walk through the dry places and rain your joy and presence

Slay an evil prey, cause my lips to say-

“God is watching my back”



Restore the joy of loving, serving and living

Cause my eyes to see the mountains, not just the stone in front of me.

Let a bird sing a new song of melodious praise to me,

Let an ant show the works of his persistent hands,

Let a crashing wave meet the earth with thunderous shouts!

For they all live, but they live for you Lord.



My wicked heart, my selfish mind, the sorrowful soul

Knows it was made in Your image
…pause to acknowledge that You are God.




Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs,
singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; - Eph 5:19

What’ yu doing?

“Daddy what’ yu doing?” has become one of Joshua’s favourite questions these days…which usually follows an appropriate answer but before you know it there comes the same question again.

Being a 32 months old father, I have become more conscious of what I am doing at all times, remembering at all times that he is watching and writing his own version of whatever he is observing.

His eyes are keen, his ears are sharp and his mind is amazingly ‘glue-telligent’ that readily sticks to whatever stimulates it.

“What’ yu doing?’ is a very important daily question for me now…I ask myself whether what I am doing is in line with what I ought to be doing…sometimes too much effort and resource is wasted on doing what is urgent and immediate rather than what is important.

What yu doing…

The Teacher’s Hand Writing

It’s all over the board,


Inscribed all over the wall,


All over my mind and all over my heart


My teacher you toil day and night

To ensure the students get it right

Even when parents don’t


You do

Your joy is our success


You desire our best


You use your time, your money and energy

To make us who we must become


Your reward is immeasurable


Teacher your hand writing is on the wall

Though not seen, some read it and live better lives


You go over and beyond what is asked

Your joy is our success

You desire our best


Teacher your hand writing is on the wall

God knows just how special you are

(Happy Teachers' Day 2011)

Empty…

Empty your mind of all the ills so I can fill it with my peace and my will...

Empty your heart of all the aches, pain and anxiety, hush and be still…

Empty your eyes of the tears so I can look into your soul...

Empty your arms of the baggage so I can caress you and have you to hold...

Empty your face of the frowns and sadness so I can replace with a kiss of gladness...

Empty your destiny of all the distractions, too many unprofitable talk and thoughts…

Empty your life of the distress, the disgust, the discouragement and move by faith and love

Empty you on me then let me take your cup and fill it up…

I made you…I know just what you need right now…

It’s your life, don’t second guess, I can do it better than you can and for much less

GOD