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Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Who is affecting you?

Sometimes our lives can become absorbed with those who are affecting us negatively.
Quite often this is the case and is usually someone we resent and wish would go away.

Today, take time to acknowledge that your life would be much different if certain persons were not in it. The people who make living more worthwhile and getting out of bed so much easier are the ones you should allow to affect you the most.

Take a little time to really reflect on who is affecting you and how.
Answer these little questions, who cause you to do it most?

1. Become upset
2. Cry
3. Become discouraged
4. Worry
5. Feel bad

a) Laugh
b) Smile
c) Be hopeful
d) Think
e) Feel inspired

If you had jot down your answers on a small sheet of paper then you might have noticed how some persons name appeared more than once on your list. If not, that’s ok too. But having the same person appearing more than once is a good indicator of who is affecting you mostly.

Now, the area you are most affected in will depend on you. If it was easier to answer questions 1 to 5 than a) to e) then you know the negative influences are weighing down more on you.

Our lives are touched by the people we meet, our family and friends or even a total stranger in the street. I always crave the touching, heartwarming moments than I do the disturbing ones. I do not make room for the negative energy.
I do not make myself a magnet for negative and disturbing influences.

Having completed this exercise myself, I did two other exercises you may also want to consider.

Firstly, I rid myself of the disturbing encounters and persons who are magnets for attracting unpleasant encounters. Soon I was happier and I felt more fulfilled. I also had more energy to help and empower those who really wanted to be helped.

Secondly I took five minutes to let those who have touched my life in one way or another know how much they mean to me. Five minutes of gratitude, five minutes of thank you and appreciation, five minutes of, “I love you’.
I was strengthened and they too were strengthened from receiving those wonderful compliments.

If you are being affected by others and you dislike the person you are becoming, then it is time for you to take back the reins. I talk more about this in my upcoming book, “DISCOVERING THE GOLD IN YOU”.

You must remain in control of your life, it is then and only then you will be able to give it to your Creator. Walk well!

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