We choose hurt…

Often times when we are close to someone we say they hurt us by means of something they said or did. We take on the hurt because we experienced failed expectations or painstaking disappointments.

This will happen because we are close to the individual. However this is not a case of sparks are flying so you will get burn, rather it is a flowing river and you choose to dive in, you choose to get wet.

If we were to have seen the person’s behaviour from a distant it might not have mattered to us. We would perhaps just over look the fault or the problem and move on or move up.


But too often when we are close to someone and that individual do or say what they will, we choose to wear hurt. In choosing to wear the hurt we take the bad end of the stick, we say well you don’t know what you did to me when you…Whenever this happens the emotions begin to ride the tides of our hearts. The spirit then becomes discouraged and downcast.


I am one of those persons who believe that even in our best and greatest efforts we still offend, if not many, at least some. I have seen governments who did what was best for their people yet were hated for it. Jesus came and did what was Godly and righteous and was hated then crucified for it. I am writing this to help some to overcome hurt, still there may be those who dislike me for it.

I believe when God sends the rain, one man is happy, another is angry. I believe when God sends us the sun, one man is grateful, another man is complaining. We choose our response and we also choose to wear hurt. Some persons may look at this with great cynicism. Perhaps you will say people are hurting you and you have been hurt in the past.

I therefore ask you this question, when you get a release from the hurt you are feeling and carrying isn’t there usually a process of letting go? Even in therapy we are guided to connect with the source of the hurt and to replace the ill feelings with better, a shifting of the emotional response.


We choose to take on hurt, even when no offense is given some will always take it.

Even when an apology is given some will always choose to hold on to the hurt. This message could never be clearer to me, we choose to hold on to it and we choose to let it go. We choose to put on the garment of praise or the garment of hurt and bitterness.


The flip side is that hurting people hurt people. Not many are discerning enough to notice that the child who keeps snapping at his school mates may very well be in need of help. We often take on the hurt from others, while becoming blind to the bigger issue that the person may just need help.


How do we fix hurts? We let them go. We let them go and replace them with better. We let them go and replace them with suitable substitutes of healing, deliverance and freedom. This we do when we embrace the truth of God’s word. The darkness and evil will flee away. No longer will I choose hurt, I choose life, and I choose abundant life.

(If you need further help with overcoming hurt, feel free to make contact with me)