Still a virgin at 21

“Everybody is talking about how is it that I am age 21, still a virgin and without child. I am annoyed by it and they even insinuate that I must be a ‘weirdo’”

These are the words of a bright and promising young girl from one of our inner city communities. She says that in her area where she lives, at age 21 she is suppose to have had her second child by now.

It was Shakespeare who said, "Company, villainous company, hath been the spoil of me.”One wonders just how many young girls live their lives on these ridiculous demands of the society. In my blog on Tuesday, April 8, 2008 entitled, “Real men needed,” I made the point that real men are not ashamed to live and act differently from the world in order to guard themselves.

Daily we all have to be strong and refuse to let our peers and the society dictate how we ought to live. There are principles outlined in the bible that some of us embrace and others refuse. At the end of it all, each of us will be held accountable for the choices we make and how we used our time.

There are some things that never change whether a virgin at age 21 or 42. When we take on certain responsibility before we are ready it usually comes with some very harsh consequences. When we ramble away from the model God has designed we usually fail. That is true, and so the final result is up to you.

I replied to the young lady by telling her that she is a diamond and in the eyes of those around her she is just a ‘rock’. Those around her don’t know and perhaps never will know her real value. But in the eyes of a diamond cutter or a diamond specialist she is more valuable than she could ever imagine, she is precious and she is to wait for her time to shine. At any time she can become like them, but they can never become like her. Diamonds are brilliant and that is just what they do, they shine.