Real men are needed

Last night I shared with a group of men on issues which affect men.
In my presentation I highlighted the need for us to redefine manhood.
We made a list of issues affecting men ranging from sexual issues, money, work pressures, just to name a few.

The ‘modern’ society and the culture of the day have distorted who a man is.
Our society is fast becoming cold, hard and callous. Sadly there are those who believe it
is manly to be tough and say unkind stuff and if you cry when harsh words are thrown at you then you are weak and perhaps considered a sissy.

You are considered less than a man if you use words such as sorry, excuse me and please.
I grew up in an age when manners and respect were more valuable than pocket money. It was taught in schools and by our parents the importance of respecting adults.

A few weeks ago I was in our company canteen placing an order for my lunch when this ‘guy’ came in and decided not to wait in the line. He stepped out ahead of me to be served next by the attendant. I signaled to her and informed her that I was in the queue long before this ‘rowdy’; of course I never did describe him as such.
The guy responded, “Ok then, you can serve this ‘soft man’ first.”

I never knew I was a soft man, nor was I sure who is a soft man.
I later learnt that a soft man use words such as please, thank you, I am sorry and excuse me. A soft man will wait in line and respect orders and instructions. He made it sounded as though it was such a bad thing. That is a technique they use, to make us men who do the right feel out of place and uncomfortable.

Now you can begin to imagine the type of world that will be created with an attitude like that.
We are in trouble. We need to redefine man; it can no longer be left up to the society. As a man, I feel an urgent need to train the younger men how to be responsible, how to be caring, to be protective of the females and children and to understand the value of work.

I wouldn’t even mention the way our men are dressing these days that one is definitely for another time. Real men are wise yet humble, responsible and can be corrected. Real men do not put others down with their actions, words or strength. But rather they affirm and build others up. They are not ashamed to live and act differently from the world in order to guard themselves.
Real men are needed.